Comprehensive analysis of ALL American/Chinese differences—starting with sex!
568 pages, ★★★★★
Many books are dedicated to the differences between ‘western’ and ‘eastern’ culture. I’ve reviewed The Geography of Thought, Mao’s Last Dancer, Bomb, Book & Compass and many more here on this blog. None of these books are nearly as comprehensive and readable as Americans and Chinese: Passages to Differences. This book covers almost every aspect of culture—starting with sex—and makes The Geography of Thought—to which I naïvely gave five stars the first time around—look especially simplistic by comparison.
The book begins with a premise that American life discourages intimacy. The author goes on to say that Americans chase money, material objects and weapons more readily than do their Chinese counterparts because Americans generally lack the tradition of strong social ties—guanxi—that are so prevalent in China.
While The Geography of Thought over-analysed the simplistic thesis that “America is a line; China is a circle”, this book gives us a more intelligent alternative:
U.S. society is individual-centred;
Chinese society is situation-centred.
This book goes describes differences in:
- Love (“how does my heart feel?” vs “what will other people say?”)
- Raising children (bottom-up vs top-down) and how people celebrate children’s birthdays
- Art and storytelling (briefly)
- Education (fun vs rigid)
- Religion, monotheism and the role of God
- Attitude to animals
- Sense of security
- Attitude towards old age
- Weaknesses and how they are dealt with
In all cases, this book focuses more on the “what” than on the “why”. It’s very lucid, very readable, and is authoritative without being dry. Basically, this book’s perfect!
Best of all, I love the examples and stories that illustrate these differences. In one instance, the author compares the flood story from the Bible with a flood story from Chinese history (~2500 B.C). The author shows how the responses and attitudes towards fate, nature and the common people in these two stories represent their respective cultures. (Noah was a saved, chosen ‘hero’; whereas the Chinese were supposed to stay put and abate the effects of their flood collectively.)
This book makes it easier for westerners to understand Chinese ways. Many books have attempted to do this, and some have succeeded, but this effort outshines the competition by far. For anyone who wants to increase their understanding of Chinese/Western culture, this book is an excellent place to start. I highly recommend this book. ★★★★★